Dementia can become apparent with age. There is no rhyme or reason as to why this condition affects some people, but it can be frightening and sad to realize that your father is experiencing memory loss and random hallucinations. If an assisted living care arrangement is being sought to ensure that your father remains safe and receives the medical care he needs, help him transition into his new home.
Make Preparations Before Introducing The Move
Don't burden yourself or your father anymore than need be. Sure, it might play on your mind that your dad should be included in the moving process, but before you let him in on what is going to take place, find an assisted living facility that offers the level of care that he needs.
Even if your father has moments where he seems to act like his 'normal' self and doesn't portray any signs of dementia, it can be risky if an episode occurs without any warning, that could lead to him becoming injured or lost. This is why it is imperative that you select a facility that provides rooms that are situated within the confines of the main building where caregivers are stationed.
It is also important to learn about the protocol that caregivers are required to follow. Do residents receive frequent assessments and are they given a viable way to contact someone in the facility? Will you be notified immediately about any changes in behavior that pertain to your dad's well-being?
If the director and staff that you meet with seem to have a handle on dementia cases and follow a routine that you are comfortable with, you will be able to transition your dad into his new residence, without feeling as if you are doing him a disservice or are placing him in harm's way.
Pack And Be Upbeat When Filling Your Dad In
If you spend a lot of time at your dad's home, there is no reason why you shouldn't start getting his items packed and ready for the move. During bouts of dementia, your loved one will not be able to decipher what you are doing and there is no reason to verbalize the fact that you are getting ready to move him into an assisted living facility.
During a moment of clarity, however, let your dad know what you have decided. You may experience some uncertainty or anger, but if you point out all of the positive things that the facility can offer, you may find that your father is receptive to the idea and this will help make the transition smooth and satisfying for both of you.